Full Checklist

The complete inventory. Take your time, be honest, and leave blank whatever doesn’t apply; there are no wrong answers, and nothing here is a commitment. Your responses come directly to me and are read in strict confidence: the starting point for the scenes I design around your real desires and boundaries. New to this? The Intro Checklist covers the same ground in a few minutes and is a gentler place to start.

The scale - mark each item; leave it blank if it doesn’t apply:

  • Limit a hard boundary, off the table
  • Neutral no strong feeling either way
  • Made to not something you’d choose; something you could be made to do: as discipline, or simply because it pleases them
  • Open willing to try
  • Curious intrigued, drawn to it
  • Enjoy known, and liked

Every row ends in a + Note: room for a few words at any rating - even on a limit, the why is welcome. Anything you rate Made to or higher also unfolds the finer marks: one for the things you especially want and, where it matters, how hard it can go. Many activities are split by role: how you feel about receiving something can differ from giving it. A second tap on any mark clears it.

Sections
About You
ReceivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Sexting
Phone / video sex
Receiving provocative images of a partner
Protocols / rules
Requests / assignments
Rest of this group:
SendingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Sexting
Phone / video sex
Sending provocative images of self
Protocols / rules
Requests / assignments
Rest of this group:
LimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Romance / affection
Hugging
Kissing (body)
Kissing (mouth)
Spooning
Watching or reading erotica together
Using real names
Overnight stays
Rest of this group:
On selfLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Clothed sex
Lingerie
Stockings
Heels
Leather
Latex
Rubber / neoprene
Sportswear / athletic gear
Underwear / socks / footwear focus
Uniform
Cross-dressing
Formal attire
Being dressed / dressing rituals
Scent focus (body or gear)
Rest of this group:
On a partnerLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Clothed sex
Lingerie
Stockings
Heels
Leather
Latex
Rubber / neoprene
Sportswear / athletic gear
Underwear / socks / footwear focus
Uniform
Cross-dressing
Formal attire
Dressing a partner / dressing rituals
Scent focus (body or gear)
Rest of this group:
LimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Self and one submissive partner
Self and one dominant partner
Self and two submissive partners
Self and two dominant partners
Self and one submissive & one dominant partner
Self and two or more dominant partners
Self and two or more submissive partners
Gangbang (as center)
Gangbang (as orchestrator / participant)
Orgy
Rest of this group:
ReceivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Non-erogenous touch
Erogenous touch
Intentional overstimulation (non-sexual)
Intentional overstimulation (sexual)
Biting
Suction / hickies
Nibbling
Tickling
Hair pulling
Ice / cold toys
Heated oil / warm toys
Temperature contrast (alternating)
Feather, fur & soft textures
Food play / being fed
Wartenberg wheel / pinwheel
Sensory overload (stacked sensation)
ASMR
Post-orgasm sensitivity play
Rest of this group:
GivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Non-erogenous touch
Erogenous touch
Intentional overstimulation (non-sexual)
Intentional overstimulation (sexual)
Biting
Suction / hickies
Nibbling
Tickling
Hair pulling
Ice / cold toys
Heated oil / warm toys
Temperature contrast (alternating)
Feather, fur & soft textures
Food play / being fed
Wartenberg wheel / pinwheel
Sensory overload (stacked sensation)
ASMR
Post-orgasm sensitivity play
Rest of this group:
Giving / performingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Handjobs / fingering
Blowjobs
Deep throating
Facefucking
How far
Swallowing
Giving facials
Performing cunnilingus
Face-sitting
Grinding / outercourse (frottage, tribadism)
Teasing
Edging
Dirty talk
Praise / affirmation during play
Stripping
Performative masturbation
Instructed masturbation (JOI)
Self-humiliation
Rest of this group:
Receiving / watchingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Handjobs / fingering
Blowjobs
Deep throating
Facefucking
How far
Swallowing
Receiving facials
Receiving cunnilingus
Face-sitting
Grinding / outercourse (frottage, tribadism)
Teasing
Edging
Dirty talk
Praise / affirmation during play
Stripping
Watching masturbation
Instructed masturbation (JOI)
Watching self-humiliation
Rest of this group:
Vaginal: ReceivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Teasing / threatening penetration
Phallic penetration (condom)
Phallic penetration (bareback)
Strap-on penetration
Dildo penetration
Tantric stimulation
Other object
Fisting
Rest of this group:
Vaginal: GivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Teasing / threatening penetration
Phallic penetration (condom)
Phallic penetration (bareback)
Strap-on penetration
Dildo penetration
Tantric stimulation
Other object
Fisting
Rest of this group:
Anal: ReceivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Anal teasing / threats
Phallic penetration (condom)
Phallic penetration (bareback)
Strap-on penetration
Dildo penetration
Rimming
Prostate / internal massage
Anal training / stretching
Plug wear (during play, or out)
Ass-to-mouth
Other object
Anal fisting
Rest of this group:
Anal: GivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Anal teasing / threats
Phallic penetration (condom)
Phallic penetration (bareback)
Strap-on penetration
Dildo penetration
Rimming
Prostate / internal massage
Anal training / stretching
Plug wear (during play, or out)
Ass-to-mouth
Other object
Anal fisting
Rest of this group:
LimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Barrier use: condoms
Barrier use: gloves
Barrier use: dental dams
Discussing STI status & testing before play
Period play / scenes during menstruation
Enemas (preparation or play)
Rest of this group:
ReceivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Free hanging / love swings
Up against a wall
69'ing
Rope / chain suspension
Double penetration (toys or partners)
Unseen actor
Stealth penetration
Rest of this group:
GivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Free hanging / love swings
Up against a wall
69'ing
Rope / chain suspension
Double penetration (toys or partners)
Unseen actor
Stealth penetration
Rest of this group:
On selfLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Ball / bit / ring gag
Panel / tape / muzzle gag
Inflatable / severe gag
Long-duration gagging
Collar
Leash
Rope bondage
Body harness (rope or leather)
Mitts
Cuffs
Metal restraints / irons
Armbinder / monoglove
Straitjacket
Wall / cross mounting
Stockades
Cage / confinement
Chastity device
Encasement / mummification
Hood (full head)
Blindfold
Aural sensory deprivation
Spreader bars
Predicament bondage
Progressive restraint (built up in stages)
Long-duration restraint
Rest of this group:
On a partnerLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Ball / bit / ring gag
Panel / tape / muzzle gag
Inflatable / severe gag
Long-duration gagging
Collar
Leash
Rope bondage
Body harness (rope or leather)
Mitts
Cuffs
Metal restraints / irons
Armbinder / monoglove
Straitjacket
Wall / cross mounting
Stockades
Cage / confinement
Chastity device
Encasement / mummification
Hood (full head)
Blindfold
Aural sensory deprivation
Spreader bars
Predicament bondage
Progressive restraint (built up in stages)
Long-duration restraint
Rest of this group:
ReceivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Inert dildo
Vibrating dildo
Inert plug
Vibrating plug
Induction vibrator
Air-pulse vibrator
Wand / stationary vibrator
Penetrative sex machine
TENS / e-stim unit
How far
Violet wand
How far
Pump (suction)
Remote-controlled toys (private)
Remote-controlled toys (discreet, in public)
Rest of this group:
GivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Inert dildo
Vibrating dildo
Inert plug
Vibrating plug
Induction vibrator
Air-pulse vibrator
Wand / stationary vibrator
Penetrative sex machine
TENS / e-stim unit
How far
Violet wand
How far
Pump (suction)
Remote-controlled toys (private)
Remote-controlled toys (discreet, in public)
Rest of this group:
Being dominated (receiving)LimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Domestic servitude
Slavery
DD/lg, MD/lb
Discipline
Punishment & reward systems
Corner time
Mouth soaping
Begging
Titles & required address
Speech restriction / permission to speak
Posture training
Eye-contact rules
Inspection / presenting
Collaring (symbolic / ritual)
Day collar / discreet symbols in public
Forced orgasm
Orgasm control
Orgasm on command
Ruined orgasms
Orgasm denial (within scene)
Out-of-scene / prolonged orgasm denial
Keyholding / chastity control
Between-session rules & protocols
Financial control (negotiated bounds)
Head or body shaving (ritual)
Made to cry / tears as release
Brat / defiance play
Primal play
Rest of this group:
Being dominant (giving)LimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Domestic servitude
Slavery
DD/lg, MD/lb
Discipline
Punishment & reward systems
Corner time
Mouth soaping
Begging
Titles & required address
Speech restriction / permission to speak
Posture training
Eye-contact rules
Inspection / presenting
Collaring (symbolic / ritual)
Day collar / discreet symbols in public
Forced orgasm
Orgasm control
Orgasm on command
Ruined orgasms
Orgasm denial (within scene)
Out-of-scene / prolonged orgasm denial
Keyholding / chastity control
Between-session rules & protocols
Financial control (negotiated bounds)
Head or body shaving (ritual)
Made to cry / tears as release
Brat / defiance play
Primal play
Rest of this group:
ReceivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Light pain
Heavy pain
Suction bruising
Nipple clamps
Clothespins
Clothespin zippers (zip strings)
Clamp removal at climax
Pinching / skin stretching
Body slapping
How far
Face slapping
How far
Spanking
How far
Caning
How far
Flogging
How far
Beating
How far
Whips
How far
Crop / single-tail
How far
Paddles
How far
Strap / belt / tawse
How far
Bastinado (soles of the feet)
How far
Counted strokes / endurance sets
Impact while restrained or gagged
Forced exercise / static holds
Cock / pussy slapping
Cock / pussy torture
How far
Genital weights / stretching
Figging
Breast torture
How far
Hot wax
How far
Scratching
Biting
Burning
How far
Cutting
How far
Knife / blade play (fear, no cutting)
Fire play
Branding / scarification
Needle play
Sounding
Speculum / catheter (sterile)
Electro torture (wand)
How far
Shock collar
How far
Bruising (short-term)
Markings (lasting, multi-scene)
Rest of this group:
GivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Light pain
Heavy pain
Suction bruising
Nipple clamps
Clothespins
Clothespin zippers (zip strings)
Clamp removal at climax
Pinching / skin stretching
Body slapping
How far
Face slapping
How far
Spanking
How far
Caning
How far
Flogging
How far
Beating
How far
Whips
How far
Crop / single-tail
How far
Paddles
How far
Strap / belt / tawse
How far
Bastinado (soles of the feet)
How far
Counted strokes / endurance sets
Impact while restrained or gagged
Forced exercise / static holds
Cock / pussy slapping
Cock / pussy torture
How far
Genital weights / stretching
Figging
Breast torture
How far
Hot wax
How far
Scratching
Biting
Burning
How far
Cutting
How far
Knife / blade play (fear, no cutting)
Fire play
Branding / scarification
Needle play
Sounding
Speculum / catheter (sterile)
Electro torture (wand)
How far
Shock collar
How far
Bruising (short-term)
Markings (lasting, multi-scene)
Rest of this group:
ReceivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Smothering (hands or face-sitting)
How far
Choking
How far
Commanded breath-holding
How far
Encasement / bagging
How far
Wet-cloth smothering
How far
Water dunking
How far
Rest of this group:
GivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Smothering (hands or face-sitting)
How far
Choking
How far
Commanded breath-holding
How far
Encasement / bagging
How far
Wet-cloth smothering
How far
Water dunking
How far
Rest of this group:
LimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Excess saliva / spit
Cum play
Lactation / adult nursing
Desperation / holding
Blood
Watersports
Scat
Vomit
Rest of this group:
ReceivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Aphrodisiacs
Conditioning
Mantras / repeated phrases
Consensual gaslighting
Ignoring / silent treatment
Hypnosis / trance induction
Hypnotic commands
Fear play
Sleep play (pre-negotiated)
Rest of this group:
GivingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Aphrodisiacs
Conditioning
Mantras / repeated phrases
Consensual gaslighting
Ignoring / silent treatment
Hypnosis / trance induction
Hypnotic commands
Fear play
Sleep play (pre-negotiated)
Rest of this group:
LimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Foot worship
Boot & shoe worship
Body worship
Genital worship
Muscle worship
Trampling
Bathing / grooming service
Full attendance / body service
Rest of this group:
As subject / centerLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Glory hole
Humiliation
Verbal degradation / name-calling
Objectifying language
Body writing
Exhibitionism
Watching others play (voyeurism)
Medical
Captivity / prison
Pet play
Human furniture
Human auction / appraisal
Slave training
Interrogation
Fake blackmail / leverage
Authority-difference roleplay (simulated)
Unaware / free use
Fake public use
Religious / sacrilege roleplay
Cuckolding / hotwife dynamics
Gender play / addressed as another gender
Scenes photographed or recorded (private)
Practical sex education
Rest of this group:
As participant / orchestratorLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Glory hole
Humiliation
Verbal degradation / name-calling
Objectifying language
Body writing
Exhibitionism
Watching others play (voyeurism)
Medical
Captivity / prison
Pet play
Human furniture
Human auction / appraisal
Slave training
Interrogation
Fake blackmail / leverage
Authority-difference roleplay (simulated)
Unaware / free use
Fake public use
Religious / sacrilege roleplay
Cuckolding / hotwife dynamics
Gender play / addressed as another gender
Scenes photographed or recorded (private)
Practical sex education
Rest of this group:
ObservingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Incest (roleplay)
Age play
Consensual non-consent
Consensual partner sharing
Breeding / impregnation fantasy
Cheating (roleplay)
Blackmail / leverage (sustained roleplay)
Authority difference (sustained roleplay)
Gender roleplay (forced feminization, enabled masculinization, etc.)
Public play (legal venues, negotiated)
Rest of this group:
ParticipatingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Incest (roleplay)
Age play
Consensual non-consent
Consensual partner sharing
Breeding / impregnation fantasy
Cheating (roleplay)
Blackmail / leverage (sustained roleplay)
Authority difference (sustained roleplay)
Gender roleplay (forced feminization, enabled masculinization, etc.)
Public play (legal venues, negotiated)
Rest of this group:
ObservingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Furry
Transformation
Tentacles
Monster / beast
Alien
Futanari
Vore
Dollification / bimboification
Macrophilia
Formicophilia
Inflation
Rest of this group:
ParticipatingLimitNeutralMade toOpenCuriousEnjoy
Furry
Transformation
Tentacles
Monster / beast
Alien
Futanari
Vore
Dollification / bimboification
Macrophilia
Formicophilia
Inflation
Rest of this group:
Signals & Responses

The most valuable page of the whole checklist. Bodies answer before words do, and no two answer alike; what is written here teaches a scene to read you correctly.

Words & Language

The right word lands like a hand; the wrong one ends a scene. Spell them out - praise and degradation both work best pre-cleared.

Aftercare is the intentional care and reconnection that follows a scene, easing the return from a heightened headspace. Needs vary from person to person, and from session to session. It also helps to plan for drop: a dip in mood or energy (for the submissive, and sometimes the Top too) that can surface hours or even a day or two later. Food, rest, hydration, and staying reachable all help. Mark what supports you, and add anything specific below.

How much it helpsSkipNiceImportantEssential
Snacks
Water / hydration
Blanket & warmth
Cuddling with a partner
Cuddling with an object (pillow / plush)
Massage
Bath or shower
Rest / nap
Verbal affirmation / reassurance
Emotional state check-in
Being talked through the scene (debrief)
Entertainment (show, music)
Low light / calm music
Alone time
Shared activity
Help getting dressed
Tending to marks / first aid
A check-in message the next day
In Your Words
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Once you submit, this inventory tailors everything that follows: every scene I design lives inside these answers, never outside them.